Behind Closed Doors

Randy Raciti

Philippians 4:8

Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable - if anything is excellent or praiseworthy - think about such things.

When assessing a work situation, I tend to look for what is going wrong. When considering the people in our organization, the first thoughts that come to my mind are how they are coming up short rather than how they are succeeding.

A few years back, I was having a particularly hard time with one employee. There was nothing the employee was doing wrong. We simply had different business philosophies.

Rather than valuing our differences and working with this person to make our organization stronger, I decided to share my differences behind closed doors. I had a number of conversations with other leaders in the organization in which I consistently portrayed this colleague in an unfavorable way.

Finally, one of my coworkers had the courage to gently point out that it was not the employee who had the problem, but me. I prayed and reflected upon what had been said and realized my coworker was right.

I took the employee to lunch, confessed my wrongdoing, and asked forgiveness. I have since grown to appreciate this person and the wisdom of their philosophy, and our organization is stronger as a result.

God is always thinking the best of me. Over time, slow though it may be, I am growing more into the person he created me to be. He gives us the opportunity to do the same by thinking the best of each other.

TAKE THE CHALLENGE: The next time you are part of a conversation that portrays someone in a negative light, ask yourself, “Is this a fruitful, godly conversation?”