Family Tree

By: Brenda Fox

1 Peter 5:6

Humble yourselves, therefore under God’s mighty hand and he will lift you up in due time.


One of my family members decided to cut off all contact with the rest of us after getting married. We had no idea why. This person made no attempt to communicate with us for years. I was hurt, angry and confused.

My parents divorced when I was 24 and my siblings were a few years younger, leaving us in a state of shock. I had been to therapy several times over the years to work on myself and to heal from the repercussions of the split.

A few years ago I decided to start praying for healing in my family tree. Last year, my mother got a letter from the estranged family member, whose spouse was, sadly, dying of cancer. This person asked my mother for money and sympathy, still giving no explanation for the past, expecting to just be accepted back into the fold. I found myself angry, yet wondered if this was God’s way of bringing about the healing I’d been praying for.

I humbled myself and reached out to this family member to offer my condolences. The spouse passed away three months later. We saw one another for the first time in 19 years when I went back to Chicago to celebrate my mother’s 80th birthday. Seeing each other felt odd because we had become like strangers.

I continue to need the Lord’s help and healing in this situation. However, he is humbling me to encourage this person to go back to church, find Christian support and find the resources needed to heal. I trust that the Lord will lift me up in due time!


TAKE THE CHALLENGE: What relationships do I struggle with when it comes to being humble before the Lord?